Have you heard of the five love languages by Gary Smalley?
His theory is that each of us give and receive love in different ways. The languages are:
- words of affirmation
- acts of service
- receiving gifts
- quality time
- physical touch
Most of us experience love through all of these languages; but often one or two are dominant.
Words of affirmation seem difficult for some to speak. Our nature is to be negative and critical. But an honest word of affirmation warms the soul and lingers in the heart, lifts the spirit, inspires and can even give courage.
Acts of Service come easy to the Martha’s of the world. But for some of us it does not. Many people thrive when their needs are served!
Giving and receiving gifts can be a wonderful expression of love. I do wonder if our consumer driven society doesn’t leave us overusing this language? However, a gift can be a visible token and reminder of the loved one.
Spending quality one on one time with our kids or loved ones seems more difficult in our busy time driven culture. A quiet talk. A cup of coffee or a tea party, telling and listening to stories can be so calming and reassuring that we are loved.
Physical touch is so powerful. Hugs, pats, rough housing, holding hands are connections that speak to the soul.
Do you know your love language? Do you know the love language of those you love?
If not, practice each of them and watch the results! You will learn a new important language that speaks to another’s heart!
“Children need at least one person in their life who thinks the sun rises and sets on them, someone who delights in their existence and loves them unconditionally.” – Pam Leo
“I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you should also love one another. By this everyone will know you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” (John 13:34-35)